Words By S.

Saturday, 19 May 2007

I Hate You = I Like You… A Lot.

Filed under: Relationships — S @ 10:24 pm

A question I feel the need to pose is, do we ever develop beyond childhood when it comes to expressing our interest in the opposite sex?

When you are under the age of ten, typical boy/girl relationships consisted of teasing, hair pulling, name calling and taunts. The more one of those “cootie ridden” boys picked on you meant the more he liked you. He especially liked you if he shoved you so that you fell in the mud and scraped your knee in the process.

When you reach your adolescent years, there’s The Game. You all know it – you stare at the person you like and look away if they look in your direction as if they would never notice. And vice versa. Lather, rinse, repeat as needed.

What about when you’ve reached adulthood? Do we instantaneously revert back to our old childhood tactics?

We still tease, pick with those we like by doing the things our counterparts dislike the most, and there’s the occasional name calling and taunting, and as outlined in the previous entry, we still play the staring game. So when is it that we start to move beyond the old, childhood tactics and develop more adult ones?

Do we ever develop adult methods when it comes to showing our affection for the opposite sex?

Is this behavior so ingrained in us that we are devoid of an inner, adult voice that tells us to act like normal human beings around those we are attracted to?



  1. You know, S, I used to wait impatiently to be an adult, to have adult thoughts, to act in a consistently mature way, to be wise, to talk about mortgages without boredom. And then I realised oneday that, on the inside, we simply stay that child forever with all the child’s naivety, vulnerability and (yes, it’s true) occasional cruelty. But minus the nappies, thank goodness.

    Comment by Oscarandre — Monday, 21 May 2007 @ 5:46 pm | Reply

  2. It’s bizarre, isn’t it? To think that our whole lives, we yearn to be adult and independent, only to reach adulthood and revert back to childish antics. Prime example – I remember being eight years old and having sleepovers with my cousins, where we would play all sorts of games. One of our favorite games was “Office” where one of us would be the CEO of a company and the other would be a secretary, and another would be a client in for a meeting. Now that I am a part of the workforce, I can’t help but yearn for nap time and days off where I can be carefree.

    Perhaps you are right, perhaps we never truly grow up and deep down, we all have that “I’ll never grow up!” Peter Pan mentality.

    Comment by S — Wednesday, 23 May 2007 @ 11:37 pm | Reply

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